Is it becoming more difficult for
women to get pregnant?

Part II of III

2. The emotional level:

When I ask women with the desire to have children to imagine being pregnant, or having a child, they tell me the most varied feelings, fears and anxieties.

Negative emotions act like an inner saboteur of the pregnancy. I have put together a list of the feelings that I have heard most frequently over the years:

I fear

being or staying alone with a child without support
gaining weight
not being able to handle change
that life is not predictable any more
not having time for myself any more
being too old and that my sexual organs are not functioning well enough any more
being too weak for a child
having to fight all the time

being totally stressed with a child
not being practical or perfect enough
failing, not being good enough
making mistakes during and after the pregnancy
being stuck at home and not able to see my friends any more, being excluded
being at home, because I have worked with dedication and I merged in my job

not being able to protect my child
giving birth to a little monster that is very difficult
being overwhelmed by a very demanding child
not getting along with the child
letting the child starve
the death of the child after birth
that the child could get unhappy
that the child could get ill
that the child could be taken away

that my negative feelings and thoughts could prevent a pregnancy
handling my child the same way my parents handled me
experiencing the same difficulties as my mother when she was pregnant with me
that my child could have the same traumatic experiences as myself like abuse, rape, etc.

that my partner may only take care of the child and neglect me
not being number one, not being the queen any more
having a girl when my partner wishes to have a boy and vice versa
burdening the relationship with my partner: the child could come between us
not being able to rely on my partner, being without emotional security
the reactions and difficulties from the children who are already there
that the same problems with my other children could be repeated
losing the unborn child because of my previous miscarriages
being punished because of my previous abortion
hospitals, doctors and their messages

I feel guilty

because it has not worked out yet: “everyone except me can get pregnant”
because of my previous abortion

I am angry

and jealous when I see pregnant women or women with little children
at my parents and refuse to give them a grandchild

Fear, anger and guilt do influence our energy system a lot, and block the optimal functioning of meridians and Chakras.

What can you do?

EFT and Logosynthesis are wonderful tools to free yourself from anxieties and other negative emotions and to silence the inner saboteur. You can assume that fears and anxieties are issues of your past, which get projected on a pregnancy.

If you need help with these issues, I would be glad to offer my support.

Part III: The mental and spiritual level